Familiar

All the places our lives take us seem to resemble each other. There is a feeling of being trapped in the past. We tend to repeat the same mistakes as before because we feel we are prone to failure. There is always a feeling of impending doom so therefore we must protect ourselves and in doing so we scare people away or do things that will ruin our relationships with others whether it be just friends or intimate relationships.

Why We Stay

'She must like to be hit", "she is so stupid", these words echo in the lives of victims and survivors of abuse thus inviting them/us to stay rather than put up with daggers from the mouths of contempt. Threats from the abuser verses judgement from those who say "not me I would never let that happen to me" or "if he/she lifts a hand to me", blah, blah, blah. Don't ask us why we stay ask us why we leave. We leave because we can't take the pain anymore, because we get tired of listening to those footsteps coming towards us and the I love you's that come afterward. I stayed because I didn't know I had a choice. I thought this is the way it was supposed to be.

Control

If we are spiritual we seek refuge in the god that we honor or praise and constantly thank Him when we feel it's a "God Thing". As survivors of abuse we tend to question it especially when we are in pain. As always, I will use myself as an example because of my experiences with abuse. I was angry with God for so long. I was born into a Catholic family and attended Catholic School in Mission, Texas at Our Lady of Guadalupe School. Plus I lived a block away from school so not being spiritual was never even a thought. When my family was broken due to infidelity I believed He left too. My mother hated me and my life went downhill from there. Broken promises between my parents not only trickled down to the children but also paved our futures.

Welcome to my blog

Good day to all. We will continue our relationship as we did on face book with the focus of this blog being advocacy for domestic violence and sexual abuse. As a survivor of both I continue to use my experience to help others begin or continue their own journey. If you have any questions or comments please continue to email me or post your questions on my blog. My voice is yours and as you well know I continue to be an open book from which you may always use my voice as your own.